Old Friend

[Rock Angel]

I had met this friend in about the 1st grade at a relative's house. I didn't become friends with her until we were in the second grade. By the fifth grade, we were best friends. Basically just like sisters. However, we slowly grew apart because new people came into our lives. Good people for mine, but bad for hers. Now, she hangs out with a group of whores who do nothing but get drunk and high all of the time. She also engages in this behavior. We barely talk anymore, and it makes me feel really bad. I hate how she has turned out, but I have to realize that it is her life. If I were to engage in this behavior, she would probably talk to me more. But I just don't want to smoke pot or drink alcohol just to impress her. Doing that stuff is not for me, and I don't plan on doing it. They say that you find out who your friends are, so was this for the better? Is it best that we're not really friends anymore? I was basically her side-kick when we were friends, and all she did was boss me around. We would get into a lot of arguments, and I even dated her cousin once. At the time, we were having a problem in our relationship. Out of nowhere, my friend just came out and smacked me! The relationship problem between her cousin and me was none of her business. So, should I feel bad that we aren't friends anymore? Or should I just go on with my life? Is this for the better? Please help. I didn't name this person because of privacy, however, it is no one on this forum.

[KittyCat72]

I know who it is. I think you should just be acquaintances. Losing a friend is hard, but by no means should you try to impress her. If she really was your friend, she would quit the drugs and talk to you. Is she doing that? No. Why fight for something not worth having?

[Rock Angel]

Thanks. I mean, we still talk sometimes, but it's still not the same. You can tell that she has changed, and she definitely acts fake. It's like she's unsure of herself. The only thing she talks about now is either about getting laid, drinking, smoking pot, etc. It gets really boring listening to her talk, so that's why I barely pay attention to her anymore. I'm glad I have friends like you, Kara, Agatha, Harlie, etc.

For example: a while back I had fallen off of Jason's four-wheeler, and nearly broke my arm. Kara was actually concerned about me, asking me if I was alright, etc. But when I told Chasity about it, she's like, "Oh, that sucks." I'm thinking: if you were really my friend, wouldn't you be more concerned? She was acting like it was not a big deal to her, and it made me feel really bad.

Also, she said something about if she went to the fair when it opened, that I could go with her. However, I found out on Myspace and Facebook that she is staying all night with Ashley Trammel and going with her to the fair. So basically, she broke a promise to me. Should I just give up trying to be friends with her again and move on? I'm really tired of it, and I can see my efforts aren't doing any good. She's just not worth it.

[Kara Copas~Cheerio~]

I know who it is and the way I look at it someone should like you for who you are. And also to be on the positive side she isn't as bad as the others... And I didn't know she smacked u?