Dating/Love blah blah

[Luigi]

Hmm. I have had this on my mind for awhile, and the spam/ seriousness ratio is off, so I'd like a serious discussion.

I've dated several times in the past, but I find that I really can't get attached and follow a traditional sense of "love". I mean sure, I love people, but I don't really use the same definition of love. I love everyone on my friends list. Not in an attached, inseperable sort of way, but a unique tied way. Trust me, I care for you and would take a bullet for you if you asked... but I'm not going to spend every waking minute of my life breathing out hearts and calling you every two minutes. That is what love is today apparantly, and I'm not interested in pursuing that sort of relationship.

I was curious, (and I don't know why I'm posting this, I find it healthy to learn from people) so I wanted everyone to give me their opinions on love and dating. Because, I don't want to do it. I want to find a friend who is a girl and just... have casual sex. Because I feel closer to a friend than anyone else. Is that... wrong? I am just interested in having a friend, a casual friend, who will hang out like my normal friends, come to my house, play video games, talk to me, do computer stuff with me, have sex, and... well, play it natural. It'd be like hanging out with Mi Kull, or Kelly... except my alternative for sexual tastes are satisfied. I am a weird individual, I know. But hey, don't be surprised if someone ever gets a message asking for someone to fulfill this stupid role of mine.

Anyway, I want to soak in opinions and experiences. You can yell at my motives, reasoning, and the way I want to do this, I don't care. Haha, I've accepted who I am. I don't care if you tell me I'm living life wrong... I don't want to live it "right".

Sorry. This was on my mind.

(One last note. I would like this never repeated or discussed to me in person. I don't want the world... judging my lifestyle.)

[Rock Angel]

There's nothing really wrong with your situation, so I wouldn't call you weird. Are there any friends you've thought about having a relationship like this with? Or anyone you have in mind? You don't have to say an exact name, that's your business.

[Marissa]

out of the last five relationships ive been in ive loved 3 of them Donnie,Drew, and another Drew and trent what your talking about is having friends with benefits thats what me and donnie were when we broke up but just remember this never regret something that once made you smile and that you can never hate someone that you use to love

[Luigi]

Jun 9, 2009 21:28:52 GMT -6 Rock Angel said:

There's nothing really wrong with your situation, so I wouldn't call you weird. Are there any friends you've thought about having a relationship like this with? Or anyone you have in mind? You don't have to say an exact name, that's your business.

I have very few people in mind. Simply because I don't trust alot of people, or their motives, so I'm just looking for someone I'm friends with that won't find it weird. It's hard to ask someone and still have them look at me the same, y'know?

You can get personal with me about names and such, just don't place it in public if you feel that person would be offended having their name on a public internet site.

[Rock Angel]

Jun 9, 2009 22:35:26 GMT -6 Luigi said:

Jun 9, 2009 21:28:52 GMT -6 Rock Angel said:

There's nothing really wrong with your situation, so I wouldn't call you weird. Are there any friends you've thought about having a relationship like this with? Or anyone you have in mind? You don't have to say an exact name, that's your business.

I have very few people in mind. Simply because I don't trust alot of people, or their motives, so I'm just looking for someone I'm friends with that won't find it weird. It's hard to ask someone and still have them look at me the same, y'know?

You can get personal with me about names and such, just don't place it in public if you feel that person would be offended having their name on a public internet site.

I know what you mean. Once I had this guy friend who I kind of liked for more than a friend. We were pretty good friends and everything. Always joking and just talking like normal friends would do. One of my other friends had told him about how I had felt (which really wasn't her business). He told her he only liked me as a friend, and then things got really weird between us. We stopped talking less and less, and now we don't talk at all. It really sucks because he was pretty cool, but yeah. You just have to think carefully about who you want to ask. They could look at you a little differently, or nothing might change. You could still be good friends and everything. People take things differently. It's one of those you-don't-know-until-you-try-it kind of things.

[Luigi]

Ah, see yes. Your post adds to my thoughts... I'm really good at analysis. I see things about someone having a few conversations with them. And maybe that's why I don't like many people, but oh well.

I'm straying from my main point. I could already be doing this... weren't it not for the fact that it's common for a person to make a decision solely based on how they think other people would respond.

More people make decisions based on the opinions of other people, and it kind of annoys me. I'd be cool if I could find a girl who isn't influenced by the definition of popularity.

I'm rambling. But I know human behavior... and this will not end well for me. I know a total of two people that I would even ask right now. They would consider it... but unless they have something I haven't analzyed, than I think they would be against it. The world isn't to my liking.

I have said too much. Perhaps it is best that I keep my feelings to myself.

[Kara Copas~Cheerio~]

Jun 9, 2009 21:30:30 GMT -6 Marissa said:

out of the last five relationships ive been in ive loved 3 of them Donnie,Drew, and another Drew and trent what your talking about is having friends with benefits thats what me and donnie were when we broke up but just remember this never regret something that once made you smile and that you can never hate someone that you use to love

I have went out with four guys but I have only really loved (but not in your sense Luigi) 1. Sure I told the others that I did. But I pretty much hated 1. then the other was wierd. And the 3rd well he was i think bi? But this 1 I really do. But im having problems cause my mom is fussing on me about him. (Dont Ask)

And Luigi I wouldnt say anything to anyone. And I expect thew same thing coming from others. I wouldnt want anyone saying anything to me about this either in public.

[KittyCat72]

Hmm... this seems like a topic that would be really difficult for me to get into. I have some ideas about what I'm looking for, but when I think about it, I really have no idea what I'm looking for. Sometimes I think I would want a relationship, but other times things just seem easier without one. My thoughts are very contradicting; so I have no intentions of looking for a boyfriend. If it's meant to be, it'll happen. If it's not, then at least I didn't waste my times trying to make it happen.

[Kara Copas~Cheerio~]

I agree. Sometimes it would be easier without a boyfriend.

[Marissa]

i've had a lot of boyfriends in the past and not the last three but but the one before that drew i really did love him and i really did love donnie too and how could i not love drew i was with him for a year and four months

[KittyCat72]

I truely doubt a lot of the people today to "love" others. Most of it just doesn't seem real to me.

[Marissa]

yeah you maybe right but their are alot of people that still love each other

[KittyCat72]

As an example, I doubt you, marissa. Now, there's is absolutely no way for me to know that you didn't actually love someone... but it just doesn't seem real. At least, not real in a way that I would want.

[Rock Angel]

Love can be real today. It's been proven, and I've already found the person I want to be with for the rest of my life.

[KittyCat72]

I didn't say it couldn't be real... I just said it is doesn't seem to happen often.